"Normal weight and lean people would look at obese from a different perspective - one filled with compassion and empathy.
And for the most important part: Obese people will finally understand that it was never their fault. They will finally be free of their endless self-blaming, depression, and lack of self-esteem that they had to endure their ther whole life."
It was never their fault? Excepting responsibility is what starts a process of healing, as opposed to living delusionally in a world of "it's genetics, I'm big boned, etc." Yes, depression can cause you to reach out to food as a method of coping, but at the end of the day, a person makes a deliberate choice to place a piece of food into their mouth.
Distancing one's self from reality is what keeps drug addicts using, food addicts eating, and racists/sexists/homophobes/etc spewing bigotry. If one doesn't recognize the root cause of their illness, they're never going to get better. It does matter how they got to where they are, but ultimately the responsibility to use/eat/etc falls on their shoulders.